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   How to keep Calm and Talk yourself happy

This article gives pointers on anger, how it effects you and how you can respond in better ways. It also describes how to talk yourself happy. For more information on our anger programs, see the anger management page.

What is Anger?

Anger is a human emotion. It is natural and ever yone feels angry from time to time. Feeling angry sometimes is normal, but no one can make you feel angry. You are the one who decides how you feel. While it is OK to feel angry, it is NOT OK to feel aggressive or violent.I'm a paragraph. Click here to add your own text and edit me. I’m a great place for you to tell a story and let your users know a little more about you.

What Causes Anger?

There are many reasons why people become angry. Mainly though, anger is connected to how you think and feel.


Generally speaking, the way you behave when you are angry is based on what you have learned in life. Be aware that just as you learned behaviors, you can "unlearn" behaviors also. Anger can sometimes get you into trouble. You can unlearn these behaviors that get you into trouble by learning new behaviors when you are angry that will not get you into trouble.

What Does Anger Do To Your Body?

Anger affects your body in many different ways. It increases adrenaline and other chemicals into the blood stream which causes the heart to pump faster, raises the blood pressure, tenses the muscles, causes dry mouth,upsets the stomach, causes sweating and basically causes a "flight or flight" reaction.


Generally speaking, the way anger affects the body is usually not harmful, but it could be if a person is angry for long periods of time. Being angry over a long period of time can cause a host of health problems, not to mention relationship problems with those around you. No one
wants to be around an angry person. To avoid this, it is wise to learn to control your anger.

   How Can I Learn To Control My Anger?

  • Learn to recognize when you are angry. Think about what happens in your body when you get angry. Do you feel it first in the pit of your stomach? Or do you feel it first in your chest or the back of your neck?


  • Learn the trigger for your anger. What causes you to become angry? Do you feel taken advantage of? Not important enough? Not cared for? Learn to recognize the underlying triggers for your anger.


  • Control your behavior. Once you learn  what triggers your anger, think about how you are going to react or behave.


  • Communicate your thoughts and feelings to yourself and others. This will make it easier for you to deal with and generally talking things through in a clear way will help to dissipate your anger.


  • Stay focused on solving the problem. If there is a problem, solving it will help you to feel better. Identify the problem that made you angry in the first place and then focus on solving it.


  • Use and Practice Positive Self-Talk. Talking to yourself in a positive way helps to make you feel less angry. It will start to calm you and help you to think of things in a more positive way. We know from research that using positive language influences how we think and feel. If you use positive self-talk, it will help you not only to better control your behavior but also to feel better,more positive, in general.


  • Stay Calm When Others Are Angry. If you are calm, you are better able to listen to what others are saying and can better understand their feelings. This will help to avoid arguments from escalating and will help you overcome your anger.

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 On Line Anger Management Classes For Individuals:

Do you want to take a class in Anger Management but do not have the time to or cannot attend weekly sessions?


MFT NY offers an Anger Management Program for individuals who cannot attend classes because of busy work schedules, for those who are home-bound because of a disability, life demands, or because of geographic location. The class contains the same materials that are presented in the weekly sessions.

On Line Anger Management Classes For Professionals:

Are you a busy Professional who is interested in learning more about Anger Management?


MFT NY offers an Anger Management Training and Certification Program for Mental Health Professionals, School Personnel, and Law Enforcement Persons. This course is appropriate for marriage and family therapists, social workers, mental health counselors, psychologists, teachers, school administrators, as well as law enforcement personnel (probation officers, corrections, and parole persons).

Couples Getaway Weekend Workshops

Do you want to re-romanticize your  relationship?


We are in the initial stages of developing getaway weekends for couples who want to enhance their relationship. This will involve morning and afternoon sessions in a beautiful and romantic environment.


Certificates of Completion are provided at the end of the program.


Contact us to keep updated on these new developing services.




To schedule an appointment call 516-764-2526 or E-Mail us at

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